A WOMAN has admitted to fantasising about having sex with other men despite claiming her husband is perfect.
The mum-of-two said she was ‘craving’ sex with a new partner and regularly dreamt about it while having intercourse with her husband.
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The couple has been together for ten years, and while she said the sex life was healthy and regular, she couldn’t help but think of other people.
Asking for advice on Mumsnet, the woman shared: “I have a decent marriage, no complaints in any area.
“I have a good husband and a nice life. We are early 30s with two young children.
“Just lately, I’ve been craving sex with a different man – no man in particular, just not my husband!”
She revealed the pair had gotten together quite young and didn’t experiment much before becoming exclusive.
“I don’t understand why, other than we’ve been together since we were 20 and we both have limited sexual experience before one another (though I have slept with two other guys in my teens),” she explained.
“Maybe I feel like I missed out, I’m not sure.”
She added: “DH has a high sex drive and we have sex most days. He is extremely attentive and knows exactly what I like. He is good in bed.
“But I have to pretend that he’s someone else in order to enjoy it! I’ve been drinking a lot in the evenings to deal with this.”
The woman also said she was unsure as to why she felt this way and if anybody else had similar experiences.
One wrote: “This is a massive, massive concern and I implore you to get help right away. You are on a very slippery slope, and you need professional help to figure out why you need alcohol to cope.”
They added: “You have a husband who loves you and two beautiful children who need their mum to be happy and healthy. You deserve all the happiness in the world, and alcohol can take that all away from you.
“Alcohol is not your friend. Please reach out to whomever you feel you can for support, and please seek professional guidance.”
Another suggested: “Could you bring that fantasy into the bedroom and maybe ask him to role play for you? Or if there’s an accent that really turns you on ask him to whisper to you in that voice? Maybe you could turn this into a nice kink that involves him!”
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A third chimed in: “He’s probably doing the same, almost all guys dream of other women they want to have sex with while making love to their wives and pretend they are a different woman.
“It’s harmless if that’s all it is. Pretending you or someone else gives him a thrill and makes sex easier just as it does for you. It’s ok.”
“I think it’s natural to fantasise about sex with other people some of the time but not to the extent of not wanting sex with your DH,” a fourth added.
“You did get together and settle down pretty young so that probably is contributing to how you feel. But he sounds like a great guy.
“There are a lot of s**theads out there. So be careful not to wish him away. If your DCs are very young, your relationship with your DH may seem more about you as parents than anything else.
“You will likely find you start to relate to each other more just as adults once your children are a bit older and not absorbing quite as much of your time.”
