DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my brother told me that our dad had sexually abused him when he was little, I was so shocked that it sent me reeling.
I’d always loved my dad and thought of him as a good man – even though he left us when I was six.
I’m now 48 and my brother is 50. Our dad is 80.
My brother couldn’t remember how old he was when the abuse happened – he only had vague memories – and wasn’t sure if he’d report it.
I felt so confused and torn. I wanted to help him but, at the same time, didn’t want to believe my dad could have done this.
And I worried how Mum would react.
You were so sympathetic and advised me to talk to a counsellor, sending me your How Counselling Can Help and Abused As A Child support packs.
I realised I was struggling so went to see my GP, who arranged for me to have CBT.
My brother is also getting help from a counsellor. We’re both supporting our mum.
Thank you so much Deidre, both for your understanding, and for checking up on me.
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DEIDRE SAYS: It will take time for you all to deal with and heal from this. I’m glad you’re getting professional help.
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